so today I want to focus on all you
singles out there they will never choose
you if you do not Choose Yourself first
let me say that one more time they will
never choose you and think that you’re
the prize if you’ve not chosen yourself
because you know you’re the prize this
is where I want to dive into a few
things today that you must choose first
in order for you to find the on that God
truly has for you you must choose to
honor yourself you must choose to
respect yourself you must choose to be a
person who is honest with yourself and
you must choose to put yourself first
y’all know what I’m talking about you
must choose yourself first and
understand your worth and your value and
understand that you’re the next best
thing and no one’s ever going to be able
to replicate what is perfect and there
is only one for you to ever believe and
to feel and to treat you in a way that
you deserve to be treated that you want
to be treated and they will never ever
ever treat you the way your heart
desires to tend to your heart and your
needs if you do not Choose Yourself
first to me honoring yourself first
starts with your body you must choose to
honor yourself first before they will
ever honor you this is the one place
that you must understand that as you
give yourself to this person and that
person you are not honoring yourself and
you are definitely not acting like you
are a PR
you’re acting as if anyone can get you
no matter who they are and that it’s
free and anyone can walk up and claim
you this is not the way God designed you
he says you’re precious you’re valuable
he loves you so much that he sent his
son to die for you see he doesn’t have
everybody for you they not one person
that he has created for you but some of
us have a hard time honoring ourselves
because we want to give ourselves to
that person so so that they will be with
us some of us even give ourselves to
others because we’re scared of losing
them and I want to tell you right now
that if you’ve got to give yourself to
someone in order to keep them I’m going
to sit here and ask you is what you’re
fighting for worth having you want
someone who honors you so much that
they’re even willing to wait for it if
they need to they’re willing to say you
know what I’m not leaving because I know
how good you are and that the honor of
yourself is what also gets them to know
that you must be something if you’re not
just giving it to everybody who comes
around the corner you must first choose
to honor yourself in order for them to
honor you because here comes the truth
if you were able to give it out to them
so quickly then there’s no need for them
to Value anything else about you so to
me you want someone who wants to know
your mind you want someone who wants to
know your thoughts you want someone who
wants to know what your favorite color
is or how you like your coffee in the
morning you want someone that feels like
that part is the love making it’s
getting to know every single thing about
who you are what makes you tick what
makes you smile what makes you cry they
can’t even think about not studying you
and even have an opinion on paper
because they want to know it all you
want someone who is so much about the
value of your heart and your mind who
you are that even when it comes to your
body they feel like they’ve already won
so many of us are not honoring ourselves
because we’re so desperate to have them
and to get them that we put ourselves in
situations just to keep them and this
shouldn’t be about what you have to do
to keep them or they’re going to run off
to somebody else this should be about
the fact that they know the value that
you have and they can’t imagine doing
anything to lose you see God says you’re
the prize God says you’re the one God
says that a good person is a good person
when they find a partner see to me
you’ve got to stop looking at dating as
just dating if you’ve got to look at
dating as your pursuit to find the one
and to find the one that’s going to
honor you respect you take care of you
and protect you and can’t even imagine
doing something to hurt you or they will
hurt themselves I can tell you almost
% people are willing to give up their
dreams or willing to give up who they
heir in order to submit to make sure the
other person feels okay that they’re
taken care of and then they pursue their
dream I’m going to sit here and tell you
that the person that God has for you you
should be about helping each other
achieve your dreams it should be about
you helping them and they helping you
you must take a step back and ask
yourself are you honoring who you are
and who God has designed you to be are
you honoring your selfworth are you
honoring your dreams are you honoring
what God has called you to do because
the person that God has for you will
come and step next to you and say baby I
want to help you achieve that baby I
need you to sacrifice for some of us we
get ourselves in situations where we
submit because they don’t like that
they’re intimidated by it they don’t
like you talking to your friends because
they’re probably building you up they
want you all to themselves they
I’m going to sit here and tell you that
the person that God has for you
understands that God has never made you
just for them God has made you to do
great things for other people they don’t
even match you must choose trust you
must choose honesty in yourself and you
must expect it and command it from the
person that you are with the moment that
trust is lost the moment that lies
happen it is like a glass that is broken
no matter how much you try to sweep up
the glass no matter how many pieces you
try to pick up from the floor and no
matter what super glue you’ve got with
the latest technology it cannot put that
glass back together for it to hold water
the water will leak so this is one of
the biggest things to me of all besides
honoring yourself is that you must
expect and demand honesty because let me
tell you when people lie to you if they
do it once they’ll do it again don’t get
me wrong people may lie to you and you
are to forgive them and give them
another opportunity but if you find that
you are with someone and don’t think
that lying means that they’ve told you a
lie to me not being honest means
something they should have told you that
they held from you something they should
have said to you that they kept from you
I need you to hear me I need you to feel
me this is that if you do not demand and
command honesty and you do not stand in
the fire and get them to know that you
ain’t playing and that you’re willing to
walk away if you don’t have that then
you will teach them a lesson that
they’ll never leave me and they’ll never
leave a life of honoring you because
you’ll never feel the risk of losing you
you are a prize you are unique you are
wonderfully and beautifully made I hope
you hear me single folks I hope you feel
me and I hope you’re getting this
message because you are worth far more
than rubies or gold God says and it is
who you are that gives value to a person
to make them glorify in the town or the
city according to Proverbs
amen